| Are you shy? Do you have difficulty coping | | | | things. There's nothing you cannot do. Being |
| with people or situations? Then I have good | | | | confident in knowing that change can only |
| news for you. You do not have to suffer from | | | | help you grow, and boost your self |
| shyness and you should not feel insecure and | | | | confidence. |
| fear that you are being judged with every | | | | |
| step you take. | | | | 4. When you are engaged in a one to one |
| | | | conversation, or with a larger group of |
| Winning the war with shyness takes practice, | | | | people, let them know that you are shy. This |
| but is definitely well worth the effort as | | | | prevents them from misreading you and they |
| the result is increasing confidence and self | | | | are far more likely to invite you into the |
| esteem. Wake up feeling good about yourself, | | | | conversation rather than leave you just |
| able to face the world with confidence and | | | | listening and wishing you could contribute. |
| security and the knowing that no feeling of | | | | Many people, me included, find following a |
| shyness can come in your way of achieving | | | | conversation in a noisy room difficult. If |
| your desires. | | | | you are having difficulty say so and move so |
| | | | that you can hear. People respect honesty, |
| There are hundreds of books written on the | | | | and vulnerability and you will attract more |
| subject of how beat shyness and gain | | | | honest people into your life as a result. |
| confidence, but there are a few techniques | | | | |
| that anyone can practice. Here are 6 | | | | 5. Rejection is a fact of life that everyone |
| suggestions of techniques on how to overcome | | | | experiences. It is rarely you that is being |
| your shyness: | | | | rejected. If you are rejected, for example if |
| | | | you ask someone for a date, remember that |
| 1. Every morning, as soon as you get up, get | | | | everyone has different likes and dislikes. |
| in front of a mirror and say out loud "I feel | | | | You may be attracted to one type of person |
| terrific! I feel terrific! I feel terrific!" | | | | and not others. The same applies to other |
| Repeat this affirmation with enthusiasm at | | | | people and you are probably just not their |
| least ten times everyday until it is | | | | type. That does not devalue you in any way. |
| ingrained into your subconscious mind. If you | | | | Accept this and know that you will get over |
| feel a little self conscious to begin with | | | | it. Never take it personally and keep in mind |
| lock yourself in the bathroom. The results | | | | that if people reject you it is because of |
| will amaze you. | | | | their own likes and dislikes and not because |
| | | | of who you are. You are equally entitled to |
| 2. Feel good about yourself. Look your best. | | | | reject others because of your likes and |
| Dress up more often. This gives you an extra | | | | dislikes. |
| feeling of confidence and self esteem. On its | | | | |
| own just knowing that you look good will | | | | 6. Engage in an activities that make you feel |
| boost your confidence and reinforce with | | | | excited and good about yourself or start a |
| others that there are things about you that | | | | hobby that gives you a feeling of relaxation. |
| are worth getting to know. | | | | This could be anything from gardening to Tai |
| | | | Chi to Karate. Take some lessons, learn or |
| 3. Take a risk at least once a day. It is | | | | master a musical instrument or take singing |
| very invigorating and conquering fears by | | | | lessons. Do something that excites you and |
| taking risks helps you grow in confidence and | | | | take a risk. Exploring things that make you |
| self esteem. Start with small risks and fears | | | | feel excited is a great antidote for shyness. |
| and as you overcome them move onto bigger | | | | |